Twin Mum diary

Hi all I'm Helen (HelenK) mummy to 9 month old Kai (left), Taylor (right) and Louiss 7. My partner is Asher and we have been together for 13 years. I am a beauty therapist and Asher is a youth worker as well as a club DJ. I wrote this diary back in August when the babes were 6 months old - it was my sons christening so I thought I would share it all with you.

Sorry if I go on its just once I get going…

Monday 30th August. Well today we are going to Nottinghill carnival we woke up at 7am. I knew to day would be a crazy day as Ash didn't get in until 5am! It's his birthday on Tuesday and he was out with his friends (again!). So I screamed at him as usual to get up. Kai & Taylor happy as ever this morning. We got ready and my friend who was staying over helped Ash did bottles and I got babes ready and we were off! Got to carnival at 2pm and went to my friends house to feed the babies. We got there only to find out that my friend had forgotten to pack the teats??????Nightmare! So there I was trying to feed Taylor in a panic using a cup and a medicine syringe then I tried unsuccessfully with baby food whilst Ash went all the way back to our house.

We managed to settle babies even though they weren't having any of the milk unless it was in their bottles. They went to sleep and panic started to settle in Ash was DJ'ing at 4.30pm and it was now 4.00pm. My friend (who forgot the teats) was sitting looking grey! She offered to feed the babies whilst we went out to hear Ash play. Anyway Ash made it at 4.20pm and left Kai & Taylor very impressed with all the ladies in the house making a fuss. Ash and I haven't been out since the babies were born so this was it, my hour of freedom. So off we went with our coke bottles full of Barcardi. Woo hooo!!!!!!

There I was shaking my booty on the stage, laughing, cheering and then I caught a look at myself on reflection of a shop window. Oh my god what did I look like???? I thought I looked the bee's knees, and then I noticed that my hair was a mess, my twins belly sticking out and I was cheering like a 15 year old. I quickly composed myself, fixed my hair and hid behind Ash thinking to myselfwhat am I DOING? Laughing away to myself we went and got Kai, Taylor & Louiss. I staggered home threw the crowds. We got back at 9pm put the babies to bed. They weren't impressed as their last bottle should have been at 7pm.

Tuesday 31st August Well I woke up with a hangover, Kai screaming at me, as it is 7.30am. I was dreading today, as I knew Ash was going to work and my house is like a bombs hit it. Ash's birthday and all I want to do is scream at him, I really don't want him to go to work. I don't! I smiled and fed Kai then Taylor (who he is supposed to do). Why is it when its feeding time, men have to take hours to do everything? He just knew the longer he takes Taylor would have nearly finished his bottle and then he doesn't have to do anything! Kai threw up all over me as usual. I played with the babies for a while made Lou some breakfast and yet again my diet went out the window as we ate cooked breakfast.

Kai & Taylor are very tired today all they want to do is sleep, very miserable. Put them to sleep and then my Surestart helper phones to say she can't make it today I wanted to kill her!!!! The one day I really needed her help. Lunchtime was fun had mixed veg spat all over me. We didn't manage to finish it as Taylor was having a screaming fit at me. Kai was happy as Larry, he's has learnt how to blow bubbles with the food at me. Next it was dinnertime I looked around and noticed it was 5pm I'm still in my nightclothes the babies haven't been dressed and Lou has been on the play station all day! Naughty mummy!!!!!! The boys had dinner and Kai wasn't impressed with the new apricot and apple he threw it up all over me. Then it was nappy off time. Taylor weed all over the floor and then thank god it was bedtime finally time for me to sleep. Ah bliss……………………..

Wednesday 1st September Well what a rough night with Taylor. He woke at about 11pm and just wouldn't settle. Yet again he ended up in the bed with daddy and me. He woke up bright as a button this morning with his contented brother Kai. They guzzled down their bottles and then it was time to get ready to go to nana Lynda who has been a childminder of mine for the past 4 years. The boys go to her once a week for 3 hours whilst I do a very regular client for massage. I always get nervous on a Wednesday as Lynda always thinks she knows best. Something always goes wrong. They don't drink their bottles, throw it all up, need gripe water… always something. She wasn't best pleased last week when I told her to feed them food as well. Anyway things weren't too bad today except they had really bad wind when they got home.

I spent most of the afternoon singing Barneys 'I love you' to Taylor just so he would stop moaning. I must have been singing it for at least 2 hours! They tried a new food today parsnip and pea???? Went down pretty well other than Kai blowing it everywhere, his newfound trick!!! Yet again I was covered. They seemed pretty happy though. They both then got really miserable so yep you guessed it 'nappy off' time!!!! They had a great time weeing all over the floor and shouting. Taylor is learning to push himself up the floor with his feet so he ends up all over the place. My friend asked me today, 'so how is it really looking after two?' Lucky she asked on a good day. I told her all of the lovely parts of having twins but told her to ask me again next week when I'm probably pulling my hair out and she will get a totally different reaction. I must admit I do feel isolated sometimes especially since I have started weaning I feel like I'm sitting on the floor all day feeding.

I also had an argument today with my health visitor. When I need to see her she expects me to run around to her clinics but today I said NO I'm fed up with running around after her. My time is always hurried because she is always busy and I learnt with Lou that sometimes you have to stand up for yourself! Anyway bath time and bedtime was lovely the boys love it. Our phone has been going mad all day because of the christening. I'm so excited, more Barcardi!!!!!!!!

Thursday the 2nd September Well today should have been a relaxing day. Had a peaceful night with the boys. Louis went back to school this morning I nearly shed a tear like I always do when he moves up a year. The morning was very calm spent lots of time on the floor with Kai & Taylor playing. I'm sure that their voices have got louder today!! After we had lunch I sat down for 5 minutes and woke up an hour later, I never do that, I must have needed it. I went to pick Lou up from the childminder and I forgot that I had promised her that I would go to an Anne Summers party tonight. I promised her ages ago that I would get her a well-deserved pressie. So off we went… we got home about 11pm, which was very late for me especially on a school night. I was very lucky I won lots of goodies in a raffle. I was a bit tipsier than I thought but then again I must have drunk at least 6 glasses of wine. It's funny how it never seems to affect you until you get home. I feel into bed yet again and I was off to noddy land!

Friday the 3rd September I woke up this morning to Kai singing to the curtains, he is a happy little bunny. I wish I knew what he was saying as he was very serious. Yet again Taylor was asleep in our bed taking all the space. I think Taylor will always be like this, more sensitive. It's funny as even though they don't remember things that happen to them when they get older, I really think that when you are poorly as a baby it makes you a more 'sensitive' child. He has been lovely today really calm, relaxed and really happy. He saw the osteopath last week and I really think they made a big change. I have been really sad today but happy in the same breath. Today is the day of the Russian school siege. I was glued to the telly all day. I just can't believe what is happening in this world. I shed a tear more then once today for the poor, poor children and the trauma that they have been put through, such innocence. They do nothing in this world to deserve to be treated they way they have been.

Children running scared with no clothes on, no food, no drink, no mummy, no daddy what an awful thought. I just wanted to make it better for them. This made me cuddle my boys a lot today. At one point I felt scared and wanted to go and get Lou from school. I know it may seem silly but all of this terrorism really frightens me. I then had problems with transport for my family for the christening on Sunday it all seemed pretty trivial really, in light of what was going on in the world today. I can't really say much more about my day today as this has made me very sad. I'm just pleased that I'm here protecting my babies and that we were all safe in our home together.

Saturday the 4th September Kai woke up this morning really not very well. His chest seems really wheezy and he seems upset. By 11am I got really worried and called the doctor out. I think with prem babies you have to be really on the ball. Panic started to settle as the christening is tomorrow and if he is really unwell we may have to call it off. Anyway the phone didn't stop calling with people that can't make it tomorrow, people that are very special to me. I tried not to let it upset me I was far too worried about Kai. My dear friend called earlier this morning and said she would come over to give me a hand.

The doc arrived and told me that Kai doesn't have an infection just a virus (they say that about everything) which was making him wheezy she gave him a inhaler and assured me that he will be fine for tomorrow. The rest of the day was spent sorting out my pig-style house, kids running riot all over the place and constantly trying to keep the babies occupied. We went and got Mc Donald's for the kids (always a winner) that should hopefully make them sit still for five minutes. In the afternoon I had to go and get my fake tan done, it is sweltering hot and the thought of spending the afternoon sticky isn't really doing it for me today.

Anyway had to go and get my Spanish look, as my outfit for tomorrow just won't look good with me being lily white. My friend watched the boys for me, which was lovely so I could get it done without having to ram my double buggy into everyone on a Saturday afternoon in Debenhams. The evening was spent decorating the hall and Kai seems OK so maybe it wont be so bad after all?

Sunday the 5th September What a beautiful day!!!!!! My tan is well and truly cooked and its time to get ready for the big day. Kai is really not too well at all, not interested in his bottles. I spent the morning in a real tizzy. What was I going to do????? I tried to keep together I think that most of it is just fear of the day not going smoothly. I went to get my hair done and we all had a lovely English brekkie cooked by my friend and a glass of champagne each (OK then maybe two). It did settle my nerves but deep down I was really worried about Kai. Taylor is fine happy as usual, I know he will get it as well but hopefully not today. It is boiling hot outside and people start to arrive and I'm in a complete panic, rollers in my hair, no make up on, Kai screaming and all the kids getting under my feet.

I had another glass and we got the boys ready, they are not impressed at all, its far too hot. My mother in law spent ages rocking Kai & Taylor in their buggy whilst I got ready. The church service was a nightmare Kai hated it. It was very short which was good. We all had to walk about a half a mile to the reception and Kai was really getting upset. We got there and as you can imagine it was mayhem. I had to stop everyone from drinking the champagne set out, as that was for the toast. The toast was very important to me as darling Kelly Blackford (fellow twinsclubber) had written me a beautiful poem, which I have to read. So there I was with the microphone in my hand saying this poem nearly in tears as it was so beautiful and meaningful, I was shaking like a leaf. It went down very well and everyone clapped. Then all godparents then said a speech and Asher's mum said a prayer.

I was then feeding Kai and had to take all his clothes off they were just too hot and then after that he just wouldn't settle. We didn't manage to get any photos of the twins on their own as they just hated every minute of it. In fact most pics were taken with them bare-chested and just bibs on. Never mind we will just have to take some another time when they are feeling better. I arranged for a childminder to pick up the boys and I was relieved when she came early I knew they just wanted to be at home. They settled well and I was well on my way as I poured the 4th bottle of champagne. Everyone was dancing it was lovely. So off went my shoes, I was ready to party. The photographer was driving me mad he expected me to keep gathering family members, but I thought that was his job??? Anyway it was over quickly god knows how the photos will come out in fact I'm not even sure if I'm even in any?

Never mind the rest of the evening was great more drinks flowed, I was talking rubbish as I do when I have had too much to drink. We danced, laughed and had a great time. The next thing I know it's all over. I was lying on my sitting room floor, tearing open pressies, drinking more champagne having a great time. One thing I didn't think of was the hangover the next day……..

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