Birth Stories
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This is a long one!!
When I was 34 weeks pregnant, I'd made an appointment to have my
hair cut the following week on the Thursday (my hair was very long
then, down past my waist, and the thought of having to look after
it when the twins arrived filled me with horror. So I'd decided
to get most of it cut off). I felt REALLY uneasy about the Thursday
hair appointment, though, instinctively knowing that it would be
too late. So I managed to find a woman who would come and cut my
hair at my house 2 days earlier, on the Tuesday.
Well, she arrived and cut my hair, joking that I'd better not
go into labour while she was there. When she left at 2pm I wasn't
feeling so good so headed for bed. By 4.20pm when my son and daughter
got home from school, I was feeling quite off and had some diarrhoea
and felt sick. By this stage, I was panicking, as I was alone in
the house with 3 children and thought I was going to be ill with
a tummy bug. I realised there was a small possibility I was in labour
but didn't really believe I was, as I wasn't having contractions.
I called the Delivery Suite (mainly cos I needed some reassurance)
and they said to call them back if I was worried. I called them
back and they decided I ought to come in to be checked over. As
I didn't have any transport they sent an ambulance and blue-lighted
me to the hospital!!! Actually, I felt REALLY embarrassed because
I'd only had a bit of diarrhoea and NO contractions at all other
than the usual Braxton Hicks and I thought I'd just die of shame
if I wasn't in labour and they had to send me back home (which seemed
the likely outcome).
When I got to the hospital (at 5.30pm) I was eventually examined
and told to my utter surprise that I was 3cm dilated already. I
was also having strong but painless contractions. They asked if
I wanted an epidural but I said no (too scared) but I agreed to
having the cannula. That was the worst bit of the whole labour as
the midwife tried twice (both painful) but couldn't get it in. I
was a blubbering wreck by then so they called the anaesthetist who
got it in painlessly the first time he tried.
At about 7-7.30pm baby 1's heartbeat was dropping so they wanted
to put a scalp monitor on her. This meant they had to break her
waters. It didn't hurt at all but the doctor was rather annoyed
that she'd got soaked in the process (what did she expect??)!! Once
they'd broke my waters the contractions suddenly became close together
and painful!! Eventually, it was all getting very painful and I
asked (shouted/begged/screamed) for an epidural but the anaesthetist
wasn't available for another 45 minutes!!!!!
I asked rather desperately when they would examine me again and
the midwife said in an hour. I thought (but didn't say) 'you don't
want to leave it that long'! Not long after that, at 9.16pm, Sophie's
head popped out (the midwives were on the other side of the room
making notes when this happened). Suddenly, there was a mad panic
and loads of people entered the room. They got Sophie out (I don't
remember that bit), then much to my anger, they just grabbed my
feet and put them in stirrups and removed the bottom half of the
bed. I was shouting at them to let me put my feet down but they
wouldn't. I don't actually remember much of what happened next (too
many stories about internal versions probably made my mind switch
off), but Jade, who had been breech, flipped round spontaneously
to be born 11 minutes later head first (good girl).
Both babies were whipped away to be examined. They were OK but
it was ages before I could hold them and by that time I was far
too tired to be really interested. Also, I had to stay in the delivery
suite until the drip had run through, so I was there until 3am which
I was really mad about as I was so very tired and I just wanted
to get onto the post-natal ward, into bed and get some sleep.
While I was on the delivery suite I met a midwife who had 6 children
including twins (her youngest). Like me, she was single, and meeting
her really inspired me. It was fantastic to finally meet someone
who had managed all alone with twins - I had been dreading having
mine as I thought I wouldn't cope with them and 3 older children,
but meeting her made me see that I could do it!
On the post-natal ward I got a lot of help from the midwives with
the twins. I think it's because they were so little (4.14 and 3.15½)
and everyone wanted to hold them and help look after them (usually
they didn't see babies that small there). After about the third
day on the ward I can remember thinking, "Blimey, this is supposed
to be awful by now" (I'd been reading too many books that were very
negative about having twins), but it wasn't awful at all. I was
really enjoying having my little girls, I loved them very much,
and I was coping well.
I left hospital after a week. I came home in the evening which
was a really bad time (annoyingly, I'd waited almost the whole day
to be discharged from the hospital) as I desperately needed to get
hold of a breast-pump and it was bed time for my two older boys;
so that night was pretty fraught and there were some tears from
all of us I think!!
The first few months passed by in a blur really. Looking back on
it now it was a difficult time but my love for my girls kept my
head above water, and things did eventually get a lot easier. They
are two now and it's been absolutely great having them.
Best wishes, Anita
Mum of five: Jade and Sophie - 25m id twins, Justin 4, Lawrence
7, Abi 15. Me 37!
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